Midwest Book Review by Roger Herman
Why Did I Marry You Anyway? 12.5 Strategies for a Happy Marriage
Like Chatting with a [knowledgeable] Friend
Wouldn't it be nice to have a marriage counselor for a friend? And wouldn't it be nice to have a friend as a marriage counselor? Everyone is who is married - happily or aspiring to be happy - needs to continually examine and reinforce all those wonderful positive reasons you chose your mate - and chose to stay with your mate for all those days, months, years, decades - lifetimes. Marriage isn't easy or perfect. It's a special relationship that you have to work hard to make work.
OK, so how do you make a marriage work? Well, first you shatter all the myths about skipping down the daisy-lined paths along the white picket fence. Life isn't like what we see in some of those movies and television shows that make it all seem so easy. Barbara knows. She's been there, done that - and shares her life in personal disclosures that are comfortable and instructive. Readers will feel that they are building a friendship with this author, sitting over a cup of coffee - or herbal tea - at the table in cozy breakfast nook.
Barbara (we're feeling that first-name comfort now) will tell you what works and what doesn't. Her life and experience as a therapist, combined with her work as a consultant and professional speaker, will enable her to really get her points across in ways that we can understand, relate to, and put to work.
Challenges in your marriage? Lay 'em out. Is the commitment really there? Can I count on you? I married you because you were perfect; now change! You're just like your father, mother, brother, sister, etc. Why don't we do things together? Money, intimacy, kids. Just about everything you can imagine will bubble to the surface in these pages. You'll read the myths and the realities. Stories, case studies, tools and end-of- chapter quizzes enhance the value of this book. No index: doesn't need one, but there is a helpful section of resources at the end of the book.
You'll learn. You'll laugh. You'll shake your head and nod your head. You'll read sections to your spouse. And, as you share the concepts of this book, your marriage will become even stronger. Extra note for business owners, executives, and managers, many of the things you read just might have some application for a different kind of marriage: the relationship between employer and employee.
Warning: Don't expect to read this book at one sitting. There's too much content to absorb that quickly. Besides, because you'll want to share with others too frequently, your reading will be constantly interrupted!
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