How Committed Are You?

Commitment provides the base, the foundation, for marriage to build. If this building block is shaky, the rest is at risk to tumble down. How would you rate your commitment on a scale of one to ten? How much effort do you put into your own commitment?


1. When I argue with my spouse, I threaten divorce or separation.

Always

Sometimes

Never


2. I have stormed out of the house when arguing, not letting my spouse know when I will return.

Always

Sometimes

Never


3. I make it clear to my spouse that I have doubts about the future of the marriage and am not sure it "will work."

Always

Sometimes

Never


4. I refrain from telling my spouse that I love him/her, feeling I shouldn't have to say it.

Always

Sometimes

Never


5. I am reluctant to plan for the future because I'm not sure what will happen between the two of us.

Always

Sometimes

Never


6. I don't want to fully commit my money because I don't know the future of the marriage.

Always

Sometimes

Never


7. I question whether I married the "right person."

Always

Sometimes

Never


Scoring:  How many "nevers" did you have?

6-7, excellent.  You are clear about your commitment and are communicating this to your spouse.

4-5, good.  Keep working.  You will reap results by changing your behavior.

Less than 4.  Actively work on increasing your commitment.

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